November 2012
13 posts
Hi, and welcome to my blog! I’m Alex. I’m 21 and live somewhere in Midwest, USA. I was once a very devoted choir kid and opera/choral singer on track to be a voice major. Turned women’s studies enthusiast and almost-major in college. Turned current work-in-progress. I’m still a feminist and music-lover and miss many things about both of the aforementioned environments. I’m just not currently on either of these life paths anymore and only time will tell if I’ll return to them eventually.
I’m trans* Of the non-binary variety. I’m still searching for what exactly that means to me in terms of exact personal identity, future plans, and more. I’m *just* beginning to come out again to those I was previously out to as binary trans male, and I haven’t decided on an order of preference in terms of gender pronouns, but either he/him/his, ze/hir/hirs, or they/them/theirs is fine with me. I reblog a lot of trans* rights & resources posts. More so than personal trans* related anecdotes, but I’m considering opening up more about the personal in the future.
I’m a feminist. I reblog a lot of posts about feminism. I try to blog about a wide variety of -isms: sexism, racism, heterosexism, etc. - because we live in a world of intersectional identities and intersectional oppression, but I know I don’t always do as good of a job with representation as I should. I’m always working on doing better. I tag with trigger warnings to posts, using the tag “tw: ______” My current most frequently used trigger warning tags are tw: rape, tw: rape culture, tw: sexual assault, tw: sexual violence, tw: suicide. If you have any specific triggers you would like me to tag, please feel free to let me know.
I’m also a fanboy. Of a bunch of different things, but on here mostly TV fandoms. This blog contains posts about TV shows including, but not limited to: Castle (Favorite show alert! Shameless plug: You should watch Castle if you’re not already. Mondays at 10 PM on ABC, for those in the U.S.), Doctor Who, Parks and Recreation, The Office, Community, New Girl, Rizzoli & Isles, Leverage, Lost Girl, Warehouse 13, Gilmore Girls, Bunheads, Better Off Ted, the Whedonverse (Buffy, Angel, Firefly, Dollhouse) ~and more. This is not a spoiler-free blog, but I’ll always tag spoilers (with the tag “spoilers”) for your Tumblr Saviors.
My URL and blog title come from the Andrea Gibson poem “Stay.” Andrea is awesome, and you should definitely check out her work!
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this #GIRLSNIGHTIN business is maybe my favorite thing that has ever happened because it’s all about women supporting other women and cheering on their successes and GUESS WHO THOUGHT OF IT?!
My class today
- Me: So when you see the 4 year old boy pull the little girl's hair...
- Students: He likes her!
- Me: Now they are around 11 or 12 and he grabs her arm and wrestles her to the ground even though she calls him a jerk and yells at him to leave her alone.
- Students: That is just how boys are.
- Me: Now they are 18 and he grabs her arm and--
- Students: Oh, that's not okay.
- Me: Really? How would he know? How would she know? How would you know? You just told me that for the first 17 years of these children's lives that you thought it was cute, sweet, and natural for a boy to grab a girl and be rough with her.
- Students: Oh.
- Me: Oh, is right.
Now that Halloween is over, most of us here in the States will soon start seeing the red kettles of the Salvation Army asking for donations for the holiday season.
The Salvation Army is religiously affiliated and not LGBT-friendly. [x] Not at all. It actively discriminates against those in need if they are LGBT.
Instead of giving to the Salvation Army, give to secular charities like Toys for Tots, Goodwill Industries, or the American Red Cross. Or any number of local charities in your area.
tammy baldwin has:
- fought to end health disparities for lgbt ppl
- fought to pass hate crimes protections for sexual orientation & gender identity (incidentally, this was the first law to explicitly provide protections to trans americans)
- testified in favor of employment non-discrimination protections for trans people
- followed thru on the promise she made when withdrawing her amendment to continue pursuing an enda that includes gender identity
- & then there’s the marriage and immigration equality stuff that indirectly benefits trans ppl
yeah, she’s fucking scum bc this one time she caved to her colleagues’ pressure to make the “pragmatic” decision. she made one bad choice, and she’s now irredeemable. no one should be celebrating the historic barrier she’s broken.
This is helpful.
What this all does show is how Transphobic the whole political sphere is and how ‘rights’ work in the United Hellhole of America. Old news, I know.
And blaming the effects of a larger political climate on one legislator, a woman who tried (or helped in trying) to introduce/keep gender identity in the ENDA in the first place, is a huge misapplication of anger and indignation at the ENDA situation.
The are a lot of people in the political sphere who perpetuate harmful and horrendous attitudes towards trans people and Baldwin isn’t one of ‘em.
I’m glad you posted this.
If you examine what actually happened in 2007, it becomes damn clear that Baldwin didn’t make a “bad choice” — she simply didn’t have enough political horsepower to beat Barney Frank and the entire Democratic Party establishment which was backing him. She stuck her neck WAY THE FUCK OUT and did everything she could have possibly done for trans people short of outright political suicide.
October 2012
45 posts
“I feel like the first few beats were hurtful — meaning there was so much anger and tension and hurt that needed to be expressed, and in some ways it was expressed just by being together. And then I feel there was just really wonderful lovemaking and discovering each other’s bodies, and finding solace in each other. These are two people who are extraordinary as individuals. I mean I hope, in my best version of a love story, they’re extraordinary as individuals. And then because they’re so extraordinary, they’re alone. By being together, maybe they’re not so alone? It’s kind of neat to have two people be vulnerable to each other who are not allowed to be vulnerable to very many other people, you know? And I’d like to see that progress throughout the year. I’d like to see what it means for Castle to care for a woman who is not his responsibility in the way that his daughter is or his mother is, but really care for an equal.”
—Stana Katic on Castle & Beckett in Season 5 (via nora02583)
“When we survive sexual assault, we are the gift. When we survive, when we go on to love, to work, to speak out, to have fun, to laugh, to dance, to cry, to live, when we do that, we defeat our attackers. For a moment, they strip us of our choices. As we heal, we take our choices back. We are the gift to ourselves, our families, our communities, and our nation when we survive.”
—For rape survivors, Mourdock’s remark was an(other) attack on consent — MSNBC (via aminatou)
Genderqueer Links and Books →
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Genderqueer Links and BooksThe following are link and book recommendations, all evaluated myself, as helpful resources that relate to genderqueer and non-binary concepts and identities. If there is a resource you would like to suggest, please use the GQID submit form (select Submit a Link from the drop-down or copy and paste a list into the default text box). See also Marilyn Roxie’s genderqueer tag on Delicious. If you are instead looking for the bibliography for the Genderqueer History and Identities project, click here.
Links:
Genderqueer-friendly Tumblrs
Androgynites Unite, Anything But Binary, Ask a Non-Binary, Break the Binary, LGBTQ Advice, Fat Genderqueers!, Fuck Yeah Androgyny!, Fuck Yeah Bigender!, Fuck Yeah Genderless, Fuck Yeah Gender Studies!, Fuck Yeah, Genderqueers!, Fuck Yeah, Transitioning GQs, the gender bender agenda, The Gender Book, Genderforkr, GenderPanic, Gender Queeries, Genderqueer, The Genderqueer Activist, GenderQueer Confessions, Genderqueer Fashionista, Genderqueer Problems, GQ Moments, KNOW Homo, LGBTQ Connections, Neutrois, Nonbinary, Non-binary Artists, Nonbinary Autistics!, Non Binary Confessions, Non-Binary Folk, Non-Op, no gender rules, nullgrade, Practical Androgyny, Queer Dictionary, Smashing the Binary, spectrumofgenders, STFU Binarists, T.R.A.N.S., Transcending Anatomy, Trans*Opinions, Trans* Transgressions, Trans* Tumblr Directory, transbears, TransFess, TRANSPRIDE, ygender[queer]
GQ-friendly Livejournal Communities
Androgynes, Bigender, Birls, Gender Blur, gender_fluid, Genderqueer, Gender.queer_FTW, Girlfags and Guydykes, Transgender
Websites and FAQs
Androgyny Rarely Asked Questions, Chroanagram, Crossdreamers, Genderfork, Genderology, Genderpedia, Genderqueer in the UK, GenderQueer Revolution, Gender Sphere, The Midwest Trans & Queer Wellness Initiative, Nonbinary.org, Non-Op: Another Option, pipisafoat: FAQ on Genderqueers, Gender Expression, and Gender Variance, Practical Androgyny, Questioning Transphobia, T-Vox, We Happy Trans, World Professional Association for Transgender Health, YGender
Organizations and Events: Click here for a list
Forums and Groups
AVEN: Gender Discussion, Forum GenderQueer (Russian), Last.fm: Genderqueers Group, Laura’s Playground, Scarleteen: Gender Issues, Susan’s Place, TransYada, What is Gender?
Identity Sites
Androgyne Online, Bigender, Bi-Gender the Bisexual Partner, GirlFags, Neutrois.com/Neutrois Outpost, Neutrois Nonsense
Prounouns and Titles
Art of Transliness: Gender Neutral Relational Terms, Freelance Writing: The History of the Indefinite Singular Pronoun, Gender Neutral Pronoun Blog, Gender Queeries: Gender Neutral/Queer Titles, Genderqueer in the UK: Misc, or Mx: A Gender-neutral Title, MIT’s Ally Toolkit: Gender Neutral Pronoun Usage, Warren Wilson: Using Gender-Neutral Language in Academic Writing
Articles: Click here for a list
Fun, Videos, Podcasts, & Performance
Agender Earthworm, Facts About Queers (Humor), Fuck Yeah Non-Binary Seahorse, Genderqueer Chat, Gendercast: Our Transmasculine Genderqueery, Gender Queeries,Kreative Korporation: Yay genderform! (a comprehensive and fun-to-play-with list of gender, sex, orientation, and more identities), Midwest Genderqueer, regender: A Different Kind of Translator, Trans Parrotfish, Trans Parrotfish’s Significant Other
Education
Gender Diversity Project, Gender Spectrum: Resources, Queer Teaching Tips, Safe Schools Coalition, TRANScending Identities: A Bibliography of Resources on Transgender and Intersex Topics, Transgender Student Rights, Trans What?: A Guide Towards Allyship
Sex Ed: Click here for a list
The Trevor Project: “The leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services” to LGBT youth: 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386) Also available for matters of less pressing urgency, Dear Trevor is an “online, non-time sensitive Question & Answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.” A directory of previous questions in the category of Transgender/Genderqueer is also available.
Social Media
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Books:
Note: Use Worldcat.org, the world’s largest global library catalog, to see if the book you’re seeking is available at a library near you!
Gender Now Coloring Book - Maya Christina Gonzales
Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us - Kate Bornstein
Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation - Kate Bornstein
Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws - Kate Bornstein
My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely - Kate Bornstein
Books and essays by Ivan Coyote
Grrl Alex: A Personal Journey to a Transgender Identity - Alex Drummond
GenderQueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary - Joan Nestle, Riki Wilchins, Clare Howell
Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality - Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel
Queer Theory, Gender Theory - Riki Anne Wilchins
Read My Lips: Sexual Subversion and the End of Gender - Riki Anne Wilchins
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (in-progress) - Laura Erickson-Schroth
whatever.odt (free!) - JD O’Meara
Feeling Wrong in Your Own Body: Understanding What It Means to Be Transgender - Jamie A. Seba
That’s Revolting!: Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men - Lori B. Girshick and Jamison Green
Transition and Beyond: Observations on Gender Identity - Reid Vanderburgh
(Looking for a list of books concerning gender, sex, and orientation that aren’t genderqueer specific instead? Click here)
Book lists compiled by others:
Bibliography of Books Concerning Androgynes and Androgyny
I’ve updated this yet again on site and used the reblog post format that subtlecluster had put up to share it - keep sharing and suggesting more resources that I should include!
“Look, guys. No matter what a girl does, no matter how she’s dressed, no matter how much she’s had to drink, it’s never, never, never, never, never okay to touch her without her consent. That doesn’t make you a man, it makes you a coward.”
—
Vice President Joe “the BAMF” Biden, in a speech launching the federal government’s campaign to fight sexual violence on college campuses (via girl-non-grata)
